Togetherness

Everyone could use some occasional support. Blogs, FaceTime, email, text are all terrific! But nothing compares to actual in person interactions. A gathering of people can be inspiring, healing and powerful! As you can tell, I love groups. I have been facilitating groups on a variety of topics for over 20 years. I currently lead domestic violence groups for perpetrators and children who witness DV, wellness groups and exercise groups. I get excited before each and every group! I love the energy of a pack of people who get together to do the same thing! The vibe is contagious! My job as a facilitator is to stick to the plan, get the party started, initiate interaction and make people feel comfortable. It doesn’t take long for the bonding to start. In a given week I see people hug, exchange gifts, carpool and lots of other kinds of connections that can’t happen online. It makes me smile when I think about how these people didn’t know each other before “group.” Sometimes people forget how much we need each other. Yesterday I wrote about ” empty buckets.” Isolation will deplete your bucket at an alarming rate! Today I will co-lead a couple of groups for children who witnessed domestic violence. It is validating for them to look at each other and say, “This stuff happened at your house too?” This weekend I will co-lead an exercise group with my husband at Whole Body Fitness, a wellness studio we own. People will encourage each other to push through it, but we will laugh and make it fun in the process. We started a boxing group 2 weeks ago and it’s already selling out! I know I can’t plank alone. I need my posse. Well… I know I can do it alone. But I will go longer and enjoy it more when I’m with my peops. Who are your peops? Do they provide you with the support you need to grow and learn? Do you need a new clique?
“We human beings are social beings. We come into the world as the result of others’ actions. We survive here in dependence on others. Whether we like it or not, there is hardly a moment of our lives when we do not benefit from others’ activities. For this reason, it is hardly surprising that most of our happiness arises in the context of our relationships with others.”
Dalai Lama XIV.

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  1. Lee Anne says:

    Doing it together is the best! Whether it be running, hiking, boxing or Core class at WBF. Knowing you aren’t in it alone makes it so much easier!
    Today I was thankful for a Marathoner runner friend to join me at the gym…side by side for 60 min on the treadmill, both focused on our own goals but yet running together! ❤ It helped push me harder AND iI actually ran With a Marathoner…. Woot, woot, Feeling great!

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    1. plankful says:

      That’s awesome! It’s such a different feeling doing something difficult with someone! You will be running the marathon in the big group soon!!!👍👍👍

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  2. Lee Anne says:

    Doing it together is the best! Whether it be running, hiking, boxing or Core class at WBF. Knowing you aren’t in it alone makes it so much easier!
    Today I was thankful for a Marathoner runner friend to join me at the gym…side by side for 60 min on the treadmill, both focused on our own goals but yet running together! ❤ It helped push me harder AND I actually ran With a Marathoner…. Woot, woot, Feeling great!

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  3. kalison0515 says:

    My closest friends live all over the place because I’m the one who has moved around! I live in a very transient area (Metro Washington DC) and acquaintances can be incredibly shallow. After people around here retire from their jobs, they want to move somewhere cheaper or closer to family. It’s work to build a social life here; and if I’m lucky, I’ll gain more than a superficial friendship in the process.

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  4. plankful says:

    I can tell from your posts that you are super cool! I bet you just have to make the first move. Most people look unapproachable. I saw that you are an attorney. One of my best pals told me a story about when she was in law school that still makes me laugh. She didn’t know one person. She knew she needed a friend. She scouted the place out for a friendly looking person. Chatted them up a bit to see if she actually was nice and said,”want to be best friends?” Lol! I know it’s not that easy. I live in a rural part of NH. We didn’t know a soul when we moved here! We started a wellness studio. I start every class out with introductions. I have been lucky meeting new friends through fitness stuff. Online stuff really can be a good filler!

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  5. helloleaa says:

    Wow, you are truly an inspiring person! This post truly puts into perspective how important human interaction is, and I do see that most people in my age category are completely hooked with whats on their phones, opting to co-operate over an application. It’s a bit silly, and studies do show it contributes to our overall feeling of loneliness. Most importantly, our best memories are the ones we make in the real world, its important to remember that before spending a whole day in the “virtual” reality that is online.

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    1. plankful says:

      I’m glad we will follow each other! We both have a lot to offer due to our age difference! Technology is fabulous! But humans need real contact too.

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