I went to a debriefing yesterday. It’s a meeting that people in my field attend, to discuss how traumatic events that our clients experience also impact the professionals involved. I always explain resiliency as a pool of water. If all we do is tap into our well, we will run dry. We all need to consistently add to our reserves. If we put something good into our lives everyday, when something bad happens we are prepared and ready. Well, it’s not really that simple is it? I should probably say we are stronger than if we didn’t do anything in advance. We might be less likely to head to a tub of ice cream for comfort, if we have other coping skills available. I like to get people to try meditation when things are calm in our lives. Typically people go along with it, not truly understanding the purpose. Then one day something upsetting happens and they can’t stop thinking about “it”. If we try focusing on our breath like we practiced during meditation, we might find we can stop the perseveration of negative thoughts, feelings and images. And then we clearly understand the purpose of prior meditation attempts .