I truly admire people who are genuinely confident. Not the cocky conceited type. Someone who radiates, “I got this”. When people have this trait down pat, it’s off the radar for them. They don’t see it, or put energy into it and they don’t think it’s a big deal. They just do what they do, in a natural way that leaves the rest of us in awe.
For years my friend Vanessa tried to teach me to play poker. We practiced at home until Vanessa thought I was ready to go to the casino for a field trip. I would watch my pal swagger into the poker room, sit at a table filled with unfriendly looking men and run the game with ease. In the beginning, I would panic, flee and wait for my friend at a slot machine. Vanessa was one of those people that wouldn’t take no for an answer. I knew I would have to figure out a strategy to be able to attempt to play. My plan was to copy what others were doing, and when I didn’t know what to do, I assertively declared, “All in,” and bet every chip in front of me. This tactic made the other players think I had a good hand and many would fold, AKA give in. Within minutes I felt gutsy, clever and confident. I almost forgot I didn’t really know what I was doing.
The confidence vibe is powerful! But it takes a while to get there. I truly believe we can fake it until we make it. I attended one of my first meetings this week as Program Director. It’s going to be a challenge attempting to replace a knowledgeable, well respected leader in my field. I walked into the meeting filled with Executive Directors, wearing my most professional yet stylish blazer and smiled. I boldly introduced myself to everyone at my table and realized, I’m all in!