What’s the chance that yesterday, my mother and I were both waiting for cancer test results? This was my first trip down biopsy lane. Yet a road well traveled for my mother. I am thrilled to report we are both cancer free! This experience was filled with lessons to be learned. Don’t sweat the small stuff. Appreciate good health. I also realized, I’m lousy when it comes to other people’s physical pain and sickness. I have a shake it off mentality. I’m not particularly helpful, I say the wrong thing and tend to minimize the situation. However, I will give myself credit for being compassionate and supportive when people are struggling emotionally. I now know, “Don’t think about it” invokes rage. When experiencing a medical challenge, it’s all you think about. When they said, “Don’t think about it.” I heard, “Don’t tell me.” I believe in the power of support. When you are the supporter, it’s not up to you to decide who needs support. When people need support, they need support. That doesn’t mean we have to do anything crazy. It means as helpers we need to be present, available and listen. These 3 things go along way.