Facebook sent me a “memory” yesterday. It was a picture from 5 years ago. When I look at it now, I am shocked at how good my hair looks. Apparently FB has different recollections than I do. I remember the day that picture was taken. I remember where I was, what I was doing. I don’t remember my hair looking that good. In fact, I don’t remember my hair ever looking good. I’m not saying that to make you feel bad for me or to dig up compliments. It’s obvious by this picture that I had at least one good hair day in my life. It’s too bad I didn’t appreciate it in the moment.It makes me wonder how many other good experiences have I missed, because I’m caught up in a belief. Events more signifigant than hair.
I’m a therapist. It’s my job to assist people in confronting beliefs that are not helpful. I can easily point out someone’s thought process that is holding them back. I know I have beliefs that are founded on shaky ground, that I could benefit from assessing. My belief about my hair was based on the “fact” that I have lousy hair. I have come to terms with it. It is what it is. My hair is dry, frizzy and always completely unmanageable. Or is it? Is this a real situation or a limiting belief?
This picture left me with questions. How often does this happen to us? At what point do we see a situation clearly? How much time is needed to get the distance we need to see the truth? Have I had other good hair days I knew nothing about?
Lovely post! Such a true quote!
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Thank you!
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Thought provoking post. I’m studying to become a profession coach. So my first questions back to you would be “So how much time is needed to get the distance we need to see the truth?” Blessings
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Good question right? I think it all depends. A picture was a tangible object to test reality. I’m not sure how many concrete opportunities we get. Good luck with coaching!
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So very true. And yes, your hair looks great! But we’re often our own worst critic aren’t we?
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We are! And we think/believe things are worse than they really are!
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Thank you, I have my first two clients as of this day.
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Awesome!
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Fantastic read, very thought-provoking and insightful. Thank you!
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Thank you!!!!
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That happens to me with photos. I am overly critical and reject them, but hold them aside anyway. Occassionally, I delve back in my files and actually find some of them are quite good and I wonder why I thought they were not up to snuff originally. Inner critic at work!
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The inner critic is so convincing! It’s interesting when we catch it off guard.
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Hi. Thought provoking post. Just my opinion, but I totally believe that we have one earth but 7,000,000,000 worlds–everyone living through their own perspective. What “is” something–an event, circumstance, situation? What we will make of it.
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So true. Life really is what we make of it!
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I agree! Oh, by the way…your hair looks fine! 🙂
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I’m glad you have a photo to remind you that your beliefs about your hair are mistaken! I believe that mistaken beliefs play a big part in our life, a part that often makes us miserable.
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It’s so true. We convince ourselves of so many inaccuracies!
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