It’s Just An Illusion

Facebook sent me a “memory” yesterday. It was a picture from 5 years ago. When I look at it now, I am shocked at how good my hair looks. Apparently FB has different recollections than I do. I remember the day that picture was taken. I remember where I was, what I was doing. I don’t remember my hair looking that good. In fact, I don’t remember my hair ever looking good. I’m not saying that to make you feel bad for me or to dig up compliments. It’s obvious by this picture that I had at least one good hair day in my life. It’s too bad I didn’t appreciate it in the moment.It makes me wonder how many other good experiences have I missed, because I’m caught up in a belief. Events more signifigant than hair.

I’m a therapist. It’s my job to assist people in confronting beliefs that are not helpful. I can easily point out someone’s thought process that is holding them back. I know I have beliefs that are founded on shaky ground, that I could benefit from assessing. My belief about my hair was based on the “fact” that I have lousy hair. I have come to terms with it. It is what it is. My hair is dry, frizzy and always completely unmanageable. Or is it? Is this a real situation or a limiting belief?

This picture left me with questions. How often does this happen to us? At what point do we see a situation clearly? How much time is needed to get the distance we need to see the truth? Have I had other good hair days I knew nothing about? 

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17 Comments Add yours

  1. Lovely post! Such a true quote!

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  2. Thought provoking post. I’m studying to become a profession coach. So my first questions back to you would be “So how much time is needed to get the distance we need to see the truth?” Blessings

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    1. plankful says:

      Good question right? I think it all depends. A picture was a tangible object to test reality. I’m not sure how many concrete opportunities we get. Good luck with coaching!

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  3. Miriam says:

    So very true. And yes, your hair looks great! But we’re often our own worst critic aren’t we?

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    1. plankful says:

      We are! And we think/believe things are worse than they really are!

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    2. Thank you, I have my first two clients as of this day.

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  4. Lea Peters says:

    Fantastic read, very thought-provoking and insightful. Thank you!

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  5. Eliza Waters says:

    That happens to me with photos. I am overly critical and reject them, but hold them aside anyway. Occassionally, I delve back in my files and actually find some of them are quite good and I wonder why I thought they were not up to snuff originally. Inner critic at work!

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    1. plankful says:

      The inner critic is so convincing! It’s interesting when we catch it off guard.

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  6. Hi. Thought provoking post. Just my opinion, but I totally believe that we have one earth but 7,000,000,000 worlds–everyone living through their own perspective. What “is” something–an event, circumstance, situation? What we will make of it.

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    1. plankful says:

      So true. Life really is what we make of it!

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      1. I agree! Oh, by the way…your hair looks fine! 🙂

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  7. Karuna says:

    I’m glad you have a photo to remind you that your beliefs about your hair are mistaken! I believe that mistaken beliefs play a big part in our life, a part that often makes us miserable.

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    1. plankful says:

      It’s so true. We convince ourselves of so many inaccuracies!

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