Get Over It

Some events change us forever. For me it was a car accident. In 2000 I was stopped in traffic and got slammed into by an 18 wheeler. I remember it like it was yesterday. I remember looking into my rear view mirror thinking,”Oh shit, I’m going to die!” I remember I couldn’t open my door. I could hear a hissing sound. I had just filled my tank. I thought the car was going to blow up. The back window of my SUV was touching my seat. I cried as I thought, “What if the dogs were in the car.”
The accident could of been a lot worse. I was left with some physical injuries. The emotional damage was much worse and longer lasting. I don’t think about it as much as I used to. However, it still effects me. If a Mack truck gets to close, I sweat. I believe driving in bad weather increases my likelihood of an early death. If my car slides, my legs shake for hours. Irrational, yet real thoughts.
I realize I have hang ups around driving. I am proud of how far I’ve come. There was a time, I never wanted to get into a vehicle again. I also realize there is room for continued improvement. My progress occurs at my pace.


That car accident is on my personal list of horrible events. I don’t like being a scary cat in the car. I don’t like having a back that isn’t up to par. I don’t like having to put so much thought into how weather impacts my driving, my day and my emotional state.
There were some good things that came out of my bad experience. I have more compassion for other people’s fears, even when they don’t make sense to me. I know how powerful understanding words and attitudes are. I also know how hurtful a “get over it” vibe is.
When we find ourselves judging other people’s hang ups, stop and have a moment of self reflection. Do you have an issue, struggle or weakness, that you wish people would respond more empathetically to? Let that be your guide when tempted to say or think, “Get over it.”

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10 Comments Add yours

  1. Such wise words. Thank you!

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    1. plankful says:

      Thank you for your kind words!

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  2. Oh, I SO get this! Especially having dealt with immune issues that took me from daily work to being homebound more often. I always say to someone, when I hear their judgments or opinions of others,”you really can’t know or understand, till it’s you who are THERE.”

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    1. plankful says:

      So true. People just get lost in their assumptions.

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  3. Karuna Poole says:

    Your words are so true….. and a good reminder. It also reminds me of a story I heard many years ago, that has been helpful to me. At that time one of Amma’s swamis told a story from when the ashram was new. He was sitting near her and was thinking very judgmental thoughts about his fellow monks due to their immature behavior (none of them would have been considered swamis in those days…. they were more like brothers.). Amma looked at him and sternly said “Let my children be where they are.” That sentence helps me remember that we all have our own path and are learning at our own pace.

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    1. plankful says:

      Love it!!! Thanks for sharing that quote!

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  4. Miriam says:

    What a traumatic experience that must have been. But it sounds like you have a great attitude and you’ve come so far. Good for you. xo

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  5. It is so that the effects of an accident last for a very long time. You are doing fine with overcoming these effects. It takes courage.
    I had even worse experience since I need additional surgeries after quite many years, and while it might seem we have been fixed, one is never completely new. I don’t have that much of emotional trauma since the physical pain and troubles are quite bad. Still seeing a doctor and taking antibiotics 7 months after the surgery last year, July. So, these effects can stretch over many years, for me it is more than 25 years.
    Thanks from https://inesepogalifeschool.com/

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    1. plankful says:

      Thank you for sharing your story. I will definitely check out your blog. Stay strong!

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      1. Thanks! I was writing about my experiences in the secondary blog https://inesepogalifeschool.com/, but thanks for liking art, as well.

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