Life

I heard that death makes us more reflective. I know this to be true. My mother passed away last month. I seem to be thinking about life differently. What’s really important? What do I want to accomplish? What’s the big picture?  Author Norman Cousins said, “Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest…

If Only

As I looked in the box of cracked china, I laughed. I had spontaneously bid on a pile of junk at the auction, that I didn’t preview. Antique auctions move quickly and if you don’t act fast, someone else will. There are times during the bidding process I experience, “analysis paralysis”. Should I? Shouldn’t I?…

After You

I was invited to participate in ” A National Night Against Violence. “The event took place at a city park. A city that is not known for its clean streets, nice people or peaceful ways.  I sat on a bench in the shade waiting for my turn to speak. As I looked around I was…

The Why

I read, “Man’s Search for Meaning” by Viktor Frankl in grad school, about 25 years ago. I re-read it this week. This powerful book was written in 1946. Frankl wrote about his experience, as an inmate in an Auschwitz concentration camp during World War II. The book does not focus on the details of the…

Tell Me Something Good

“The convenience store up the street, got robbed.” “Someone told me they saw a needle in the parking lot.” “The humidity is just awful.” These are some of the greetings, I got from a lady in the gym locker room this week. No, “Hello. How are you? Did you see the cool new equipment?” She…

It Is Possible

What do you believe? In most cases, it is people’s beliefs hold themselves back, not actual circumstances.  There is a powerful relationship between your beliefs and your behavior. If your beliefs are negative, there is a good chance you will give up on pursuing your goal. What limiting beliefs are holding you back? “I can’t….

3 Things I Love To Hear

1. “Your hair looks good.” I have unruly locks. I don’t even need to hear that it looks amazing or great. Good is good enough for me. Call me vain, but this compliment never gets old. 2. “That was a great presentation.” When I’m public speaking, good isn’t good enough. This something I am always…

Good To Great

I am currently reading the book “Good to Great” by Jim Collins. It’s a book about how good companies, transition to great companies. I’m not recommending you read it. I’m asking, if you are settling for good enough, some where in your life? The concepts can easily be applied to all goals…including fitness goals.  Discipline…

Not Today

I attended an all day conference on addiction yesterday. I would say it was one of the best conferences I have ever been to. The speaker was a doctor and he talked about how addictive behaviors impact the brain. It was fascinating and frightening. The most powerful part of the day, was when the doctor…

One for you. One for me.

I love giving, helping and sharing. However, there is a limit. When I feel sad, edgy or tired, I know I have gone too far. Everyone’s threshold is different and everyone has one.  My job as a therapist, is to share people’s pain. To be honest, I’m only good at it, when I have met…

Are You Feeling It?

When do you experience true enthusiasm? Do you wake up excited about what the new day will bring? What do you really really really want? It’s amazing what we can accomplish when we are in the mood. On the flip side, simple tasks can feel like a huge struggle if we are not into it….

Not When I’m Fat

I ran into a friend I hadn’t seen in years the other day. I told her, I checked her Facebook page a couple times and didn’t see anything. She replied, “You know I don’t post when I’m fat.” It made me think about what we put on hold until…  Until I have more money, I…