Tell Me Something Good

“The convenience store up the street, got robbed.” “Someone told me they saw a needle in the parking lot.” “The humidity is just awful.” These are some of the greetings, I got from a lady in the gym locker room this week. No, “Hello. How are you? Did you see the cool new equipment?” She…

The Love Bully

There are five beings in my house. Two humans, two dogs and one cat. Everyone gets and gives plenty of love. The Saint Bernard puppy insists on being part of any and all interactions. If my husband picks up the cat, Valentino will cry because he wants to be held. If I hug my husband,…

Birthday Wish

Today is my best friend’s Birthday. It’s fun to reflect on 25 years of friendship. Gail will tell you she didn’t like me, when she met me. It makes me wonder where I would be, if she stuck with her first impression that I was a snob. Luckily she decided to give me a chance. …

What if…

                 What if I didn’t go out that night? What if I judged him for his tattoos? What if I believed, you can’t meet someone “good” in a bar? What if I didn’t meet someone who loves me unconditionally? What if I didn’t meet someone who has made me…

How Can I Help?

I am a counselor. Initially it is very difficult for people to pick up the phone and call me. They want things to get better for themselves and their children. But they are nervous. They are scared if they tell someone about their situation, it will make matters worse. I say to every potential client,…

Crossing All Barriers

Yesterday my husband and I brought our dogs to Wolfeboro, NH for some puppy socialization. Bringing the puppy, was like having Kim Kardashian with us. We suspected our 4 month old Saint Bernard was exceptionally cute. It was confirmed yesterday by the swarms of people who wanted to squeeze him and joked about stealing him. …

Be With Me

When I drink my early morning coffee, I watch my 2 dogs interact. They are more entertaining than any TV show I’ve ever seen. And I learn more about relationships than any psychology course I’ve ever taken. Angelo the older one knows the house rules. Valentino the 13 week old puppy, doesn’t care about the rules. He…

Do I Have That Problem?

My best friend growing up had a frequent worry about having a booger hanging out her nose. It was such a huge concern for her, we came up with a way she could question me about it, in front of people. In a crowd, she would ask,” Do I have that problem?” She would flare…

No One To Talk To

I’m a talker. If you look at me, I will smile at you. I am a group facilitator! I initiate conversations for a living. I look for the in. I find ways for people to connect. I chat with many people through out my day. My socialization starts with my morning work out. I have…

All In

I truly admire people who are genuinely confident. Not the cocky conceited type. Someone who radiates, “I got this”. When people have this trait down pat, it’s off the radar for them. They don’t see it, or put energy into it and they don’t think it’s a big deal. They just do what they do, in a natural…

I Did This For You

My husband and I were at the movies recently and I overheard a conversation between the people sitting behind us. As the movie started to roll, the man said to the woman, “I want you to know, I am only seeing this for you.” My heart sank and I thought, “Hey Mr. Score Keeper, you…

I Miss You 

I want to write about someone who inspired me. My dear friend Vanessa. She died one year ago today. There’s not a day that goes by that I don’t think about her. It’s easy for me to pretend she’s still with us. We lived in different states for 17 out of our 19 year friendship….