Distractions, Diversions and Disruptions 

We are bombarded with thoughts, people and events that take us away from what we are doing now. If something isn’t pulling us away, we do it to ourselves. Not many people truly live in the moment. We are wired to focus on what’s next, what’s over there and avoiding what we have now. Meditation…

After You

I was invited to participate in ” A National Night Against Violence. “The event took place at a city park. A city that is not known for its clean streets, nice people or peaceful ways.  I sat on a bench in the shade waiting for my turn to speak. As I looked around I was…

The Why

I read, “Man’s Search for Meaning” by Viktor Frankl in grad school, about 25 years ago. I re-read it this week. This powerful book was written in 1946. Frankl wrote about his experience, as an inmate in an Auschwitz concentration camp during World War II. The book does not focus on the details of the…

Tell Me Something Good

“The convenience store up the street, got robbed.” “Someone told me they saw a needle in the parking lot.” “The humidity is just awful.” These are some of the greetings, I got from a lady in the gym locker room this week. No, “Hello. How are you? Did you see the cool new equipment?” She…

It Is Possible 

What do you believe? In most cases, it is people’s beliefs hold themselves back, not actual circumstances.  There is a powerful relationship between your beliefs and your behavior. If your beliefs are negative, there is a good chance you will give up on pursuing your goal. What limiting beliefs are holding you back? “I can’t….

When It’s Not Fun Anymore¬†

I am blogging this from the elliptical machine at Foxwoods. One of the biggest casinos in the world. The land of excess.  Interesting people watching here. There are groups of bachelorettes whooping it up, elderly people cramming hundreds into slot machines and others walking around looking dismayed.  When people plan to go to a casino,…

Not Today

I attended an all day conference on addiction yesterday. I would say it was one of the best conferences I have ever been to. The speaker was a doctor and he talked about how addictive behaviors impact the brain. It was fascinating and frightening. The most powerful part of the day, was when the doctor…

One for you. One for me.

I love giving, helping and sharing. However, there is a limit. When I feel sad, edgy or tired, I know I have gone too far. Everyone’s threshold is different and everyone has one.  My job as a therapist, is to share people’s pain. To be honest, I’m only good at it, when I have met…

Slightly Better

I woke up in a bad mood yesterday. This is unusual for me. I typically wake up excited to start my day. I knew my pissy disposition was a result of current stressors. I was on overload. In the moment, I wasn’t sure how to improve my state of mind. I just felt cranky. Part…

Are You Feeling It?

When do you experience true enthusiasm? Do you wake up excited about what the new day will bring? What do you really really really want? It’s amazing what we can accomplish when we are in the mood. On the flip side, simple tasks can feel like a huge struggle if we are not into it….

Not When I’m Fat

I ran into a friend I hadn’t seen in years the other day. I told her, I checked her Facebook page a couple times and didn’t see anything. She replied, “You know I don’t post when I’m fat.” It made me think about what we put on hold until…  Until I have more money, I…

My 3 Magical Ms

I achieve the best results, when I am in the zone. It doesn’t matter what I’m working on. What mattered is my attitude/vibe. Things go smoothly, less effort is needed and I’m at peace when I can tap into my flow. I know I’m slipping away, when I feel irritated, anxious or pissy. That is…