It’s So Small

I don’t know, the ice cream code where you live. But here in New England, we can walk up to an ice cream stand and order a “small” yet walk away with a pint of frosty deliciousness. You don’t even have to wink or do the quote thing with your fingers when you say, “small”….

Acting As If

My counseling position has been grant funded for 20 years. Last year our funding hit a road block and stopped immediately. It was no one’s fault. But it meant the program that provided services to children that witnessed domestic violence would cease, and I would be laid off the next day without warning. This was…

Not On My Watch

Puppies pee a lot! But they are pretty easy to figure out. Take them outside the second they wake up, because that’s when they have to go! My typical counseling technique is to observe a behavior pattern and find a solution. Easy to transfer to puppies, right? I decided today was the day I would…

Choice Is Overrated

My program works with people that are court ordered to receive our services. They are told, “Go to group or go to jail.” Essentially they have a choice, but feel forced to engage. People ask me all the time if counseling services work if people didn’t decide to participate on their own. My answer is,…

How Much?

Eating and spending are very similar in my opinion. We need to be informed to make good decisions in both areas. I never go into a store and pick out what I like and march up to the register. I always look at the price and decide if I think it’s worth it. Sometimes I…

I Miss You

I want to write about someone who inspired me. My dear friend Vanessa. She died one year ago today. There’s not a day that goes by that I don’t think about her. It’s easy for me to pretend she’s still with us. We lived in different states for 17 out of our 19 year friendship….

It Is What It Is

Some think of acceptance as giving up. Acceptance is not playing dead. It’s an appreciation for all that you are and have done. You might not be making progress as quickly as you had hoped. But any attempt is note worthy. Action and acceptance can be a parallel process. I love my purse collection. I…