Practice Practice Practice

I have facilitated hundreds of trainings, workshops and conferences. I still remember my first presentation. I didn’t prepare and it lasted 3 seconds. The feeling impacted me forever. What you think public speaking is like and what it’s actually like, are totally different.  Some say I’m a natural. I’m glad it looks that way. However,…

Not Me

  I was at a meeting recently with a substance abuse expert. Even though I am a therapist, my knowledge around substance use, misuse and prevention is limited. Everyone at the table rattled off questions to the specialist. We spent time discussing the contributing factors to why some kids try drugs and why some don’t….

All Is Well

Where’s your focus? Do you spend more energy thinking about what could go wrong or on what is going well? I believe in planning for the future. We need to be prepared. We don’t need to worry about every detail that could potentially go wrong.  There is a balance between thinking things through and obsessing….

Get Over It

Some events change us forever. For me it was a car accident. In 2000 I was stopped in traffic and got slammed into by an 18 wheeler. I remember it like it was yesterday. I remember looking into my rear view mirror thinking,”Oh shit, I’m going to die!” I remember I couldn’t open my door….

Peace Comes From Within 

We could be on vacation, at a beautiful destination, with our favorite person and feel unsettled. We could also be sitting in traffic, running late to go to an appointment we don’t want to go to and be at peace.  Finding inner peace is a skill we must learn and can learn. The fastest, easiest,…

Mission Accomplished 

Today I will pass in a project I have been working on for months. When I wasn’t sitting in front of my computer, I was thinking about sitting in front of my computer.  It isn’t just any old tough work duty. It was an assignment I dreaded and feared for twenty years. I had twenty…

Remain Calm

I considered smashing my computer the other day. I like to see myself as a peaceful person. I want to believe I would never follow through on such an aggressive thought. In a moment of full blown frustration, I didn’t feel like myself and I didn’t like it.  I felt the escalation all morning, while…

It’s Just An Illusion

Facebook sent me a “memory” yesterday. It was a picture from 5 years ago. When I look at it now, I am shocked at how good my hair looks. Apparently FB has different recollections than I do. I remember the day that picture was taken. I remember where I was, what I was doing. I…

Good Enough ?

My standards vary depending on the subject matter. After spending 5 minutes cleaning my car, I will step back, notice the remaining dirt and declare, it’s good enough. After all it’s better than it was! When I chop veggies for soup, I get bored. I decide they will become mushy anyways. I stop dicing because,…

One Thing At A Time 

Multitaskers drive me crazy! Their anxious energy makes me feel frantic. I typically take a big step back when I encounter their force field. There’s research that proves overdoing it, is not as advantageous as chore jugglers believe. Stanford University discovered that multitasking is less effective than doing one thing at a time. The study…

Joy To The World 

 I have encountered an unusual amount of stress lately. There’s so much going wrong it’s just silly! I’m waiting for someone to jump out and yell,” You got punked! Or you’re on Candid Camera!” I don’t care what era the tester is from. I just wonder, can I still be smiling when it’s over? Each…

It’s Temporary 

                  When things are not going our way, it’s tempting to get caught up in the moment. If the scale doesn’t say what we want, we might think, “I’ll never lose weight.” The doctor doesn’t tell us what we want to hear, “This is terrible!” An unexpected demanding email…