It Will Be Different This Time

Intermittent positive reinforcement is a theory of why people do things that seem unreasonable. It’s also a powerful motivator.This concept becomes clear during my yearly trip to the casino. As I cram one more twenty into a slot machine I think, “This could be The Big One!” And when it isn’t, I walk away thinking,…

It May Not Be Easy

I believe everything happens for a reason.  That doesn’t mean it will be easy. Effort is required even when we are on the right path. When my husband and I found the property to start our business, we knew it was perfect. But it needed a lot of work. The chosen farm house didn’t have…

Speech On The Beach

Today I am speaking to a group of social workers about their own wellness. They need to be taken away from their phones, clients and computers to get their attention off their incredibly long to-do lists. It was decided we will meet at the beach for Staff Enrichment Day. Social workers are good at helping…

This Isn’t Working 

It’s hard to know if we should try harder or let go. Is this a challenge or a losing battle? The answer is in how it makes you feel. If hanging on gives you anxiety, seems like a constant struggle or just feels lousy. Let go and see what happens.  My garden has been a…

You Do It Too

Everything starts with a thought. This process can lead us in any direction. Most of us don’t consider where our minds are bringing us. We walk around in a daze, lost in our thought patterns. I do it, you do it, we all do it. It has been said we have 60,000 thoughts a day….

How Can I Help?

I am a counselor. Initially it is very difficult for people to pick up the phone and call me. They want things to get better for themselves and their children. But they are nervous. They are scared if they tell someone about their situation, it will make matters worse. I say to every potential client,…

Crossing All Barriers

Yesterday my husband and I brought our dogs to Wolfeboro, NH for some puppy socialization. Bringing the puppy, was like having Kim Kardashian with us. We suspected our 4 month old Saint Bernard was exceptionally cute. It was confirmed yesterday by the swarms of people who wanted to squeeze him and joked about stealing him. …

Judgement Free Zone

I have a lot of clothes. Some would say too much. I have always loved fashion, accessories and shopping. When I was a little girl, I would insist on sporting a purse. It was usually empty. But I knew it matched and completed my outfit. Today and most Sundays in the summer I wear cut off camo pants. They are…

Is This A Test?

I was scheduled to take today off. I had big plans. I was going to bring my dog and a big stack of magazines to the lake. Then I got an email about a budget review meeting. I squashed my vacation day because I need to prepare. This has been one of those weeks. I…

You Looking For A Fight?

What’s the chance that my husband and I pissed off, 2 totally separate, unrelated people at the same exact time? This occurred yesterday when I was following Chris in my car and he was in his. Apparently during our attempt to stay together, our merging skills upset two other drivers. Chris ended up with an…

Get It Out

If I’m super focused looking at my phone, my husband will ask, “Are you blogging?” He knows when I’m in the zone, I need to finish my thought or I’m distracted until I get it out. He understands the process. He’s creative, artistic and very talented. Until I started this blog I used to say,…

All In

I truly admire people who are genuinely confident. Not the cocky conceited type. Someone who radiates, “I got this”. When people have this trait down pat, it’s off the radar for them. They don’t see it, or put energy into it and they don’t think it’s a big deal. They just do what they do, in a natural…