Not Me

  I was at a meeting recently with a substance abuse expert. Even though I am a therapist, my knowledge around substance use, misuse and prevention is limited. Everyone at the table rattled off questions to the specialist. We spent time discussing the contributing factors to why some kids try drugs and why some don’t….

Get Over It

Some events change us forever. For me it was a car accident. In 2000 I was stopped in traffic and got slammed into by an 18 wheeler. I remember it like it was yesterday. I remember looking into my rear view mirror thinking,”Oh shit, I’m going to die!” I remember I couldn’t open my door….

Merge

I believe we see people’s true colors by the way they get on the highway. It’s interesting to watch if people plow straight ahead focused on getting there first. Or do they look around to see how their actions impact others? How do you behave when you think no one is watching? Radom acts of…

2 Thumbs Up!

What’s the chance that yesterday, my mother and I were both waiting for cancer test results? This was my first trip down biopsy lane. Yet a road well traveled for my mother. I am thrilled to report we are both cancer free! This experience was filled with lessons to be learned. Don’t sweat the small…

Speech On The Beach

Today I am speaking to a group of social workers about their own wellness. They need to be taken away from their phones, clients and computers to get their attention off their incredibly long to-do lists. It was decided we will meet at the beach for Staff Enrichment Day. Social workers are good at helping…

How Can I Help?

I am a counselor. Initially it is very difficult for people to pick up the phone and call me. They want things to get better for themselves and their children. But they are nervous. They are scared if they tell someone about their situation, it will make matters worse. I say to every potential client,…

The Gift of Feedback

I got an email this week with instructions to read a document and be prepared to give honest input. My colleague wrote, “Feedback is a gift.” There are times this is accurate. Other people notice things about us we don’t see. When something is brought to our attention, we can discontinue spinning our wheels and…

Taking It Down a Notch

Yesterday, I spent the day at the hospital waiting to hear what was wrong with my mother. She’s medically complicated and spends a good amount of time at the doctor’s office. But this visit to the hospital was unexpected. When I arrived, she was getting tests and I couldn’t see her. I sat in her…

We Are In This Together 

Friday I attended a large conference in Boston. The room was filled with hundred of service providers with the same purpose. To help victims. The message was clear. We are in this together. Last week we started a new weight loss contest at Whole Body Fitness. We added a new twist. People were randomly¬†placed on…

Take Back The Night

I didn’t have time to write a blog for today. I used my writing time to put together a speech for a community vigil and walk, that was held last night. April is Victim Awareness Month. Since feeling safe is crucial to the foundation of wellness, I decided to make my talk from last night,…

Togetherness

Everyone could use some occasional support. Blogs, FaceTime, email, text are all terrific! But nothing compares to actual in person interactions. A gathering of people can be inspiring, healing and powerful! As you can tell, I love groups. I have been facilitating groups on a variety of topics for over 20 years. I currently lead…