Busy Being Busy

Years ago if you asked how someone was doing, 99% people would say, “I’m good.” Now people respond with “Busy!” Ok, that’s my own statistic and it isn’t founded on any valid research. There just appears to be a shift and a trend. What’s the goal in telling everyone you’re busy? Or on a deeper…

Life

I heard that death makes us more reflective. I know this to be true. My mother passed away last month. I seem to be thinking about life differently. What’s really important? What do I want to accomplish? What’s the big picture?  Author Norman Cousins said, “Death is not the greatest loss in life. The greatest…

If Only

As I looked in the box of cracked china, I laughed. I had spontaneously bid on a pile of junk at the auction, that I didn’t preview. Antique auctions move quickly and if you don’t act fast, someone else will. There are times during the bidding process I experience, “analysis paralysis”. Should I? Shouldn’t I?…

The Why

I read, “Man’s Search for Meaning” by Viktor Frankl in grad school, about 25 years ago. I re-read it this week. This powerful book was written in 1946. Frankl wrote about his experience, as an inmate in an Auschwitz concentration camp during World War II. The book does not focus on the details of the…

Is It True?

On Monday I told my mom I was going for a bike ride. The first one, since I was a kid. I told her, I was nervous. She said, “You should be. I remember how wobbly you were.” She spoke of a time she watched me ride a bike around her driveway, as an adult….

When It’s Not Fun Anymore¬†

I am blogging this from the elliptical machine at Foxwoods. One of the biggest casinos in the world. The land of excess.  Interesting people watching here. There are groups of bachelorettes whooping it up, elderly people cramming hundreds into slot machines and others walking around looking dismayed.  When people plan to go to a casino,…

Makes Me Love You More

Last May we picked up our adorable Saint Bernard puppy. Yesterday we were given the news all giant dog owners dread. Valentino was diagnosed with “extreme hip dysplasia”. The vet told us V’s hips are as bad as it gets, and it’s a progressive disease. My husband’s response brought a tear to my eye, “I…

Are You Feeling It?

When do you experience true enthusiasm? Do you wake up excited about what the new day will bring? What do you really really really want? It’s amazing what we can accomplish when we are in the mood. On the flip side, simple tasks can feel like a huge struggle if we are not into it….

My 3 Magical Ms

I achieve the best results, when I am in the zone. It doesn’t matter what I’m working on. What mattered is my attitude/vibe. Things go smoothly, less effort is needed and I’m at peace when I can tap into my flow. I know I’m slipping away, when I feel irritated, anxious or pissy. That is…

Not Me

  I was at a meeting recently with a substance abuse expert. Even though I am a therapist, my knowledge around substance use, misuse and prevention is limited. Everyone at the table rattled off questions to the specialist. We spent time discussing the contributing factors to why some kids try drugs and why some don’t….

What Do You Love?

 I can vividly remember walking through my house as a child, knowing each vase, piece of china had a back story. I didn’t know then, but a seed was being planted. I always thought old items were unique and cool. My love for antiques blossomed in 2010 when my husband and I went to our…

It’s Temporary¬†

                  When things are not going our way, it’s tempting to get caught up in the moment. If the scale doesn’t say what we want, we might think, “I’ll never lose weight.” The doctor doesn’t tell us what we want to hear, “This is terrible!” An unexpected demanding email…