“The convenience store up the street, got robbed.” “Someone told me they saw a needle in the parking lot.” “The humidity is just awful.” These are some of the greetings, I got from a lady in the gym locker room this week. No, “Hello. How are you? Did you see the cool new equipment?” She goes straight for the negative. When I see her coming, I attempt to dodge her dark cloud. These are not the conversations I want to have first thing in the morning. Or later in the day. Here’s a secret….Neither does anyone else.
I feel confident she does not know, she oozes a pessimistic vibe and it repels people. I think it’s safe to assume, she thinks she is just making conversation. She’s just talking about what’s on her mind.
Truth be told I can relate. I used to speak about circumstances, no matter how lousy they were, with no regard for how it would be received. My oblivious thought process was, “What? It’s true?”
I have trained myself to be more aware of how my news will impact the other person. It is a work in progress. Totally worth the effort!
1. Interactions go better when the chatting is about, good stuff. People like to interact with people that make them feel good.
2. Ask yourself, is it necessary? Not all bad news needs to be shared.
3. If the depressing information needs to be spread, make it quick. No need to dwell and give every gruesome detail. Attempt to balance the information with something pleasant.
Yes, I’m a therapist. It’s my job to hear about people’s struggles. When I’m in that role, bring it! Outside of the office, I want as much peace, love and joy I can get! I’m willing to bet your friends, coworkers and family enjoy the good stuff too.